‘Name a quality or strength that you value about yourself’
This was a suggestion to each person during our Meditation Session.
Everyone found this tricky – they either couldn’t think in that moment of anything, or were reluctant to say!
Sit on your own and give yourself time to think about it. You may come up with some ideas about how you are valuable. Your strengths. What you like about yourself. Or you may struggle with this!
Yet if I asked you to name qualities and strengths you value in other people, no problem there!
I also know that if I turned the question round to name something about yourself that is negative, a failure or a weakness, it would probably take seconds for something to spring to mind!
You are valuable!
Why do we forget our value?
All the things we do every day show that we are strong, determined, resilient, thoughtful, decisive, caring … the list goes on. We are valuable!
But it’s almost like we stick our fingers in our ears and pretend that’s not us. Maybe it’s a British thing! We put on a good act especially at work to prove we are successful and capable.
But virtually everyone I have worked with, is rather brilliant at covering up vulnerability and has a huge checklist to hand of (in their view) ‘faults’ rather than a list of strengths.
This is a great reminder:
In nature everything is valuable, everything has its place. Only humans suffer from low self-esteem. A rose, a daisy, a lark, a squirrel – each manifests its potential differently, yet beautifully …
What do you value?
We place different kinds of value on the things we do.
At the start of a mindfulness meditation course, some students are cynical about sitting still and ‘doing nothing’. It’s usually seen as something to frown on, feel guilty or lazy about, to regard as a waste of time.
We’re so used to behaving as ‘human doings’ rather than ‘human beings’
It’s a good reminder that you are valuable and worthy whatever job you do, whatever you look like, whatever your financial state is, whatever your age and gender.
You’re being human isn’t defined by any of these things, (although many like to think their job title defines them – maybe you do too!) or any other category people choose to judge you by.
Learning to meditate invites you to step off the auto-pilot of behaviours and categories that drive your life.
We’re all human beings here.
When you stop to meditate it’s a form of self-care and personal development. It means that you’re reinforcing the fact that you are valuable – for simply being you.
With self-compassion you can explore some of the negative beliefs you might hold about yourself. And while you give yourself time to be alone it’s with reference to no-one else – no labels, dress-code or categories.
Just you ‘doing nothing’.
And you’re valuable even while doing that!
Did you like this post? I hope it’s a helpful reminder that you are valuable!
You might also like to read: I Felt Inferior my Whole Life. Here’s How I Overcame that
Yvette Jane – Mindfulness & Meditation Coach
This blog post was updated 1 May 2018