Do you feel you’re not Being or Doing enough?
At the start of a new year it’s easy to look critically at ourselves. We decide that we’re not being or doing enough.
All the things that need improvement seem glaringly obvious. We read how everyone else is setting goals for success. When we compare ourselves to others we find we’re lacking.
But remember! This is the MYTH of the new you.
The new you is different and better and more successful. But here’s the point: every single one of us is already whole right now.
I am whole.
You are whole.
The Myth of the New You
It’s a myth that you need to change. That there is a ‘new’ you out there somewhere.
I’m not suggesting you stop learning new things. Or that you simply make do with situations without having the power to change them. But look at it like this, summed up beautifully by Michelangelo as he described how he created his sculptures –
‘The beauty is already there, my friend … I merely chip away the surrounding marble so as to reveal the beauty. The beauty is already within.’
What this really means is that you’re not currently lacking in anything. It’s been a cover-up and it’s time for the big reveal.
As vulnerable human beings, we create defences. We censor the way we speak. We hide our true thoughts. Our work often ‘defines’ us and our appearance can be a whole area of contention. These are the smokescreens that distort our real selves. And the challenge of being at peace with our real selves.
Sit and Accept
So your New Year intention could be to reveal the ‘real’ you.
Do this by sitting in stillness each day. Sit quietly. Be loving and compassionate in this process. Notice what criticisms arise and the demands you make of yourself.
In meditation practice you sit and accept EVERYTHING as it is.
So that means accept yourself and where you are now. Let yourself feel the range of experiences that may arise – boredom, impatience, frustration. Alongside calm, surrender and love.
Just the Way you Are
This way, you can start to remember or discover for the first time, that you are an incredible human being as you are.
You may start to identify some of the disguises you no longer need. Let them go.
Start with sculpting away some simple layers. Say ‘no’ more often. Say ‘yes’ more often.
Be kind to yourself. Remember that under the glitz and glamour, the bravado and the quick wit, we are all human. Incredibly human!
New You – you’ve been there all along
My hope for you this year is that you can begin to recognise your great beauty and uniqueness. And don’t be afraid to share it.
Your new you – you’ve been there all along.
Continue to be you. Brilliantly. In your own way.
Give these 3 blog posts a read. You may find them helpful as they explore in a little more detail this process.
Let go of negative thoughts with mindful meditation
PS. This post has been inspired by Robert Holden’s book, ‘Happiness Now’. Don’t be fooled by the title – it’s not a shallow quick-fix book. It’s well worth a read!
Yvette Jane – Place of Serenity
Empower yourself with peace through Mindfulness & Meditation
This blog post was first published January 2017