What Does it Mean to ‘Reveal the True You’?
The Clay Buddha
Jack Kornfield reminds us in ‘The Wise Heart’ of a story from Thailand:
A clay statue of a Buddha had sat for hundreds of years in a village square. One day a local monk noticed a crack in it and had a closer look. From inside the statue he caught a glimpse of luminous gold.
As he and others began to uncover the dirt and layers of plaster and clay, they discovered a beautiful work of art – a shining, golden buddha. The monks realised that the statue had been protected over years of conflict and weather conditions.
The plaster, clay and dirt, disguised true beauty.
In a similar way, we as humans ‘cover our innate nobility…. forget our essential nature’.
We deal with life by putting up defences and masks; armour to protect ourselves.
Perhaps we want to prove that we’re capable, and pretend we’re not sad or scared, to fool everyone that we’re OK. When we put on an act to show the world, we cover up our vulnerable, open and honest selves.
Do you believe that you must become hardened and strong to survive this world?
We did it first as children – fitting in so we weren’t left out, or shutting down because experiences were so difficult or painful.
We did it then, and we do it now.
Too fearful to reveal the true you, do you recognise that you put on a brave face, suppress the painful feelings, pretend, build barriers, survive … the list goes on.
So, like the Buddha statue, we forget that each of us has a shining, vulnerable and beautiful inner being – some call it our:
- Buddha nature
- Higher self
- God self
- Divine self
- There are numerous ways to describe the true you
But most important of all, is to remember that it’s there. Beneath all the defensive thoughts and behaviours, we’re really OK, we’re more than OK!
And that is our unique self. Completely and utterly unique.
Meditate to Soften the Armour
When you sit and meditate – you’re not struggling to become something else – something better or different. You are sitting and allowing the layers of armour to soften and dissolve, layer upon layer of disguises.
It may not feel easy to be vulnerable and to reveal the true you with all your quirks.
Yet as you start to meditate, you will observe patterns of negative thinking and negative habitual behaviours. And you begin to realise that you have the power to choose whether you continue believing them or recycling them.
- First: Observe and notice recurring thought patterns.
- Second: Untangle yourself from these thoughts by focussing on your breath.
- Third: Surrender and let go of each thought, however many times it may return.
- Fourth: Replace negative thoughts with loving thoughts towards yourself.
- Fifth: Sit with your vibrant, incredible living self.
‘With compassion and patience, we can all learn to gently release what has been, and let the stream of life carry us forward.’
Meditation allows you the space to connect deeply within and dissolve old layers of your armour. Now is the time to begin to reveal the true you!
More about ‘Letting Go’
Yvette Jane – Mindfulness & Meditation Guide
This post has been updated since first published in October 2015