Do you sometimes find yourself going over and over in your mind, something that you can’t stop thinking about? You can’t relax at night and you wake up with it still on your mind? Your body feels tense and tired. You’re short-tempered and cranky.
You need to learn to let it go!
Caught Up In The Story
- It could be something that happened last week or a choice you made several years ago.
- You may be upset about something because it seems unjust or the other person involved was wrong.
- Perhaps there’s been an argument at work or within your family.
Whatever it is, you feel caught up in it and unable to let it go.
The more we latch on to something with our storytelling mind, the more we build up tension. We get caught up in our need to be right. And it feels impossible to let it go.
Sometimes it’s essential that we pursue something for our own peace of mind and to benefit others too. But it’s always a good idea to stop and gently watch what’s happening. As an observer, we can sit and allow thoughts and ideas to flow through our minds.
Ask, ‘Will this be important in a year’s time? Or at the end of my life?’
Time To Let It Go
In my mindfulness classes I ask everyone how heavy is a glass that is half full of water. Everyone makes a guess, but then I tell them that it doesn’t really matter!
If I was to hold the glass for a few seconds, that would be no problem. It wouldn’t feel heavy.
And if I were to hold it for an hour, it would be really uncomfortable and inconvenient.
Yet if I was to hold on to it for a day, the same, but worse!
It’s all about whether I put it down. I can choose either.
When I put it down, relinquish it, let it go. I’m no longer experiencing any discomfort or heaviness.
Like holding onto a rope – it’s easy to get rope-burn. Let it go and it’s no longer painful!
Meditation To Let Things Go
So it’s worth looking at some of the things that happen in our lives, and how we get bogged down with being so bothered about them.
If you sit and meditate you can allow the thoughts to rise up. Allow yourself to be objective about what’s happening.
Sometimes we’re hanging on because we had expectations about a person or event, or we have our own way of behaving or doing things. Maybe we’re regretting a decision we made. Perhaps we’re missing someone who is no longer in our lives.
Acknowledge and feel the emotions. The choice is either to go over the circumstance again and again, or we could just let it go!
Nature is all about impermanence; stars at night, bubbles in a stream, a flash of lightning, echoes, a rainbow, a dream.
By following nature’s example, it can be quite freeing and powerful to not let things bother you! Let them go as soon as they’ve happened. That was yesterday, this is today!
Imitate the trees. Learn to lose in order to recover, and remember that nothing stays the same for long, not even pain, psychic pain. Sit it out. Let it all pass. Let it go.
~ From ‘Journal of a Solitude’ by May Sarton
This Poem Says It Well:
She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.
She let go of fear. She let go of the judgments.
She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head.
She let go of the committee of indecision within her.
She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons. Wholly and completely,
without hesitation or worry, she just let go.
She didn’t ask anyone for advice. She didn’t read a
book on how to let go… She didn’t search the scriptures.
She just let go.
She let go of all of the memories that held her back.
She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.
She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right…
~Excerpt by Rev. Safire Rose
Holding On Creates Stress
I haven’t yet mentioned it, but this is how STRESS is created.
We get caught up in our expectations – of ourselves and others. We ruminate over when it doesn’t go to plan. Or we take on so much that we feel we have to hold on grimly with little joy.
We become control freaks – for ourselves that’s bad enough, but worse when we’re controlling other people.
You might know a person who does something to perfection. Because no-one else does things to their standard, they’re dismissive of others, arrogant and bossy. We all know people like this and we ourselves might be like this too!
So let nature teach you to let go of stress. Next time IT happens – notice how freeing you feel when you tell yourself, ‘I’m just letting this go!’
Let it fall away, like a stream downhill, like leaves from a tree, like the passing clouds, like night follows day. Let it go!
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Yvette Jane – Mindfulness and Meditation Guide