New Year is a great time to set your intention to become more mindful
‘Mindfulness’ is an umbrella term for a way of life. The New Year is your time to embrace mindfulness – one tiny step at a time.
It’s a New Year – become more mindful!
Eckhart Tolle says about Mindfulness:
“As far as inner transformation is concerned, there is nothing you can do about it. You cannot transform yourself, and you certainly cannot transform your partner or anybody else. All you can do is create a space for transformation to happen, for grace and love to enter.”
Being more mindful is a means of creating more space.
Instead of adding yet more things to remember – like new year resolutions or goals, keep it simple by making a decision to bring mindful pauses and mindful meditation into your day.
This can be done through quiet mindful sitting as well as implementing a ‘powerful pause’.
If you can give yourself 10 minutes morning and evening for some mindful meditation, you will find a spaciousness starts to open up inside you.
That’s one way to develop it.
It’s about being present without judgment and if you are worrying over your family, finances, work or relationships, mindfulness gives you the choice to stop!
From waking up in the morning, to falling asleep at night, you may be aware that your mind is on overload and mindfulness can give you a break from this.
It can feel so busy inside our heads and it can feel like there’s no other choice! How can mindfulness benefit you and could you decide to concentrate on one of these this year?
A mindful approach can let you:
1. Enjoy more of your present moments
Make a decision to be truly present when you’re with friends or family. Less ‘multi-tasking’ and more focusing on one thing at a time!
You might find this is really so much more enjoyable!
2. Surrender to the challenging moments
Let go of the struggle to resist.
Surrender means to loosen your grip and stay more relaxed while experiencing difficulties. This helps you move more smoothly through them.
Notice how your body tenses up when you are struggling to deal with something. Relax, soften your shoulders and breathe deeply.
3. Be more self-aware of judgments
Being in the present moment means not letting your past negative experiences influence you negatively once again! This is a real tough one, especially if you are still carrying a lot of hurt, or you have deeply engrained, unconscious beliefs.
At least give yourself the possibility that you can do things differently this time round.
4. Be more compassionate and kind to yourself and to others
You can do this by asking yourself, ‘What do I need right now?’
Or towards another person, ‘What do they need right now?’
Often it might simply be to give yourself, or them, space and attention.
5. Say thank you more often
Thank you to yourself; for the things you have in your life and for your health. And of course, gratitude and thanks to others.
6. Go within yourself to check what your values are
Maybe it’s time to update some of your beliefs and decide how you will incorporate positive action.
This can be the year you make practical changes in your house to make it more energy-sustainable, join a local group involved in helping others or get more actively involved in a local charity.
7. Cultivate happiness!
What you nurture will grow.
So be mindful of tendencies to be gloomy or pessimistic. Or getting so caught up in your work that relaxation and fun fall by the wayside.
Notice that you can bring a little good humour to situations, focus on the positive and when all else fails, smile!
The challenge to become more mindful
Because of our brain’s tendency to work on auto-pilot, implementing mindfulness can be more challenging than you might at first think.
A mindful practice means less criticism towards yourself when you fall short – especially when you know you’ve behaved mindlessly.
To be mindful is a way of being that you can return to again and again. It can form the foundation upon which everything else is built.
In this challenging life of staying open-hearted yet strong, mindfulness gives you the space to walk in calm, tranquility and compassion.
You and I cannot change the past, but we can be mindful in the present moment. So make this the year you will become more mindful!
Best wishes for a Mindful New Year!
Yvette Jane – Mindfulness & Meditation Coach
Place of Serenity, Hampshire, UK
There are plenty of books on Mindfulness. Authors to look out for are:
This blog post has been updated since it’s publication in December 2015