You always have power in any challenging situation you find yourself
A lot of the time you automatically hook into unhelpful thoughts, feelings or memories. You move away from useful behaviour into distraction, packets of crisps, angry shouting or hours of Netflix. It can feel as though you don’t have power over your reactions.
You may be familiar with this kind of behaviour in some shape or form. These are ways in which we, often unconsciously, deal with the challenges of life, or the difficult moods we find ourselves experiencing.
We resort to old tried and tested methods, but which essentially are distractions that take us away from being our best selves.
We rush on without extracting the information from that moment.
Stop and ask yourself, why am I behaving like this? Am I on auto-pilot?
Am I drifting along when I could behave differently?
What we get from each moment depends on the attention we give it, and the quality of our experience reflects the quality of our awareness.
~ Roger Walsh
Your Choice Point
That moment before you get hooked into all of this – that is your mindful moment of choice.
You have a point of choice – a moment on which you can swivel in any direction you choose. This is your moment of true power.
At this choice point, pause and notice how you could make moves ‘towards’ being your best self. It’s a moment of surrender because instead of veering off into habits that essentially may be keeping you in a holding pattern, you choose pause.
Be present and aware.
Stop! Use your powerful pause:
S – Slow down – breathe slowly and deeply. Feel connected to the earth and relax your shoulders.
T – Take note: Notice what you are thinking and feeling. Notice the world around you and what you are doing/about to do.
O – Open up: Make space for your thoughts and feelings, allow them to freely flow through you. Connect in with your heart space.
P – Pursue your values: Remember your values and find a way to act on them.
Values are your deepest desires for how you behave as a human being. As part of your exploration of mindfulness and meditation, it is helpful to look at clarifying your values.
What is important to you?
Values include qualities such as
Perhaps you’ve never really given it any thought. So now is a good time to ask yourself
What kind of person do I want to be?
When you’re clear about your values, it gives you a foundation to return to. This reminds you that you always have power.
Remember what is important to you. Then it’s easier to make choices from your heart – with love, kindness and authenticity.
And if you really feel powerless, make the choice to acknowledge that in this moment, you are choosing the best you can right now.
Retain your intention: to surrender and connect with your heart.
This simple shift in thinking allows you to still maintain a sense of power – you may not like a situation but you are choosing your thoughts carefully around it.
You always have power
That’s who I love to work with as Mindfulness & Meditation Guide – those of you who want to reclaim your power. It begins with you and each moment of your life.
YOU always have power! Being mindful of this is your starting point.
Mindfulness & Meditation at Place of Serenity
‘The Choice Point’ is adapted from the work of Dr Russ Harris: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
Yvette Jane – Mindfulness & Meditation Guide
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